13 Surefire Ways To Make A Man Want You Bad

Whether you're hoping he'll take things to the next level or you're looking for a way to make him want you back, we've got you covered. We'll be looking at some surefire ways to make him want you bad:

To make him want you badly, you’ve got to remind him how desirable you are.

How Do You Tell If He's Not Into You?

There’s a major difference between how a man who’s into you treats you and how a man who’s just stringing you along behaves. Here’s how to tell if he’s not into you:

You're doing all the chasing

A guy who isn't into you won't make an effort to initiate contact or plan dates. He won’t even bother to check up on you.

When he isn't invested, he can spend days and not text you. He’ll want to pop in and out of your life when it suits him—you exist for his convenience, after all.

You don't see much of him

He'll be as elusive as the wind when he's not into you. Unlike a man who's smitten, a man who is merely using you won't want to spend quality time with you.

Instead, he'll come up with a million reasons why he can't see you. In addition to being busy with work all the time, he’ll leave you hanging on weekends and on major holidays too.

He's inconsistent

If he's not into you, his words and actions won't line up. He'll say one thing and do another. Unfortunately, all you'll be able to count on is his inconsistency.

If you've given him more chances than you can count, and he still won't get his act together, he simply doesn't care. He may also have serious psychological issues to work through.

He doesn’t introduce you to the people in his life

A man who’s interested in a long-term relationship will be proud to show off the beautiful woman who's captured his heart.

If you’ve been dating for a while and he still hasn't introduced you to his closest friends or family members, he’s just not that into you.

He doesn't regret hurting your feelings

A man who isn't into you doesn't regret hurting your feelings. He might berate you or refuse to listen to your point of view. Sadly, your needs will always take a backseat. In fact, your mental health and general well-being will be of little concern to him.

He's secretive about your relationship

Is he a social butterfly who shares any and everything about his life on social media? It doesn’t have to be a blog post about his love life, but if there's absolutely no evidence of your relationship or that he even knows you, that's a major red flag.

He's not interested in getting to know you

When he wants to establish a strong emotional attraction with you, he'll ask you lots of questions. He'll initiate conversation and want to know every little thing about you. A man who’s just stringing you along won’t make the effort. The less you know about each other, the better.

He says he's not ready for a relationship

Believe him when he says he isn't ready for a relationship. Don't stick around to try to convince him otherwise. Respect his stance, accept that he just isn't into you, and move on. Eventually, you'll find someone who's also ready for a healthy, loving relationship.

How To Make A Man Want You And Only You

To make a man want you and only you, you’ve got to form a deep emotional connection with him. Here’s what else you can do to make yourself irresistible:

1. Love him for who he is

You're two different people hoping to create a fulfilling relationship. Instead of butting heads over your differences, respect them. Better still, allow your differences to add some excitement to your relationship.

The bottom line is that loving him for who he is will make for a happy, harmonious relationship. And who wouldn't want more of that?

2. Increase your self-confidence

Increasing your self-confidence is the perfect way to make him want you bad. Confidence is attractive and communicates that you're a secure romantic partner. Being secure in yourself assures him he can enjoy a healthy relationship with you.

If you want to be perceived as a confident woman, the first step is to simply embrace who you are. Learning how to be comfortable in your own skin increases your self-esteem and makes you irresistible.

The next step is to prioritize self-care and personal improvement. Because, let's face it, there's just no way you'll be good company if you're running on empty.

3. Respect his need for independence

He might be reluctant to let things get serious if he feels like he might lose himself in the relationship.

It’s up to you to assure him that you won't interfere with the things that make him who he is. You can do this by encouraging him to spend time with his loved ones or by being supportive of his goals.

4. Pursue your passions

Maintaining a strong sense of identity is an important part of being in a healthy relationship.

Knowing that you have your own passions and hobbies assures him that your relationship will be interdependent as opposed to codependent.

When you've got your own life, he has to compete for your attention. And like most men, he probably loves a challenge.

5. Appeal to his need to be needed

A surefire way to make him feel valued is to activate his hero instinct. The hero instinct describes the innate drive men feel to protect and provide.

His relationship satisfaction levels are closely linked to how much he feels he can do for you. This is why the worst thing you could do is to deprive him of the opportunity to take care of you.

So, while you're an independent woman who's perfectly capable of handling things on her own, ask for his help. Having a secure position in your life will give him purpose and allow him to fall deeply in love with you.

6. Tell him how you feel about him

Men tend to have a hard time opening up. Since it's been proven that vulnerability encourages disclosure between partners, telling him how you feel might make him comfortable enough to share his feelings, too.

7. Put a smile on his face

He'll crave your presence if you make him feel a rush of happy hormones. So don't be afraid to show him your goofy side. Men love compliments, too, and hearing how much you love his sexy brain is guaranteed to put a smile on his face.

8. Take an interest in who he is

He'll think you're amazing if you take an interest in who he really is. Making him feel like you get him is one of the best ways to secure your position in his life. So, learn more about his interests and encourage him to share his passions, hopes, and dreams with you.

9. Get to know the people he cares about

Expressing genuine interest also includes getting to know his favorite people. Show him that you fit right in with his closest friends. Put your best foot forward and impress his family, too. If they like you too, it’ll definitely put his mind at ease.

10. Give him space

Couples who don't give each other enough breathing room tend to create a toxic relationship dynamic. It might be tempting to spend all your time together, but it's crucial to strike a balance. Make time for all the other meaningful relationships in your lives and, more importantly, set aside alone time to rest, reflect, and recharge.

11. Respect him

To make him crave you emotionally, treat him with respect. For him to even consider anything long-term, he needs to feel comfortable sharing his deepest thoughts with you.

He also needs to feel emotionally safe with you, meaning personal attacks, criticism, and comparisons should have no place in your relationship. When he has concerns, refrain from getting defensive or insulting him. Show him that he can trust you by listening to him without dismissing his ideas.

12. Give him your undivided attention

Make him feel like he truly matters by being mindful of your body language. Next time you're together, put your phone away, maintain eye contact and be fully present in the moment with him. Use space and touch to your advantage as well. This will bring you closer and (hopefully) create a little sexual tension too.

13. Let your relationship develop organically

Instead of pressuring him, allow your relationship to develop organically. You want to know that he's committing to you because he really wants to and not because you gave him an ultimatum.

Make Him Want You Bad Over Text

Texting is a low-pressure way to keep the engagement going when you're apart. If done right, texting can help strengthen your connection and build anticipation. Here's how to make a man want you bad over text:

Intrigue him

A little mystery is all you need to keep him hooked. Keep your texts short and try to let a few minutes lapse between your responses. This tells him you aren't clingy or desperate.

Instead of over explaining things, use compelling descriptions. You'll pique his curiosity and make him ask you more questions.

Remember, there’s a fine line between intriguing and frustrating him. The goal is to find a balance. You want to come across as fun and mysterious, not evasive.

Be Flirty

Flirty texts are one of the easiest way to get him chasing you. Just as you would in person, be subtle and take your cues from him. You'll build anticipation and have him counting down the hours until he sees you again.

Tell him you’re dying to kiss him. Say you can't wait to be in his arms. Better yet, hint that you have a sexy surprise planned for him. While teasing is fun, there’s nothing like a bold, seductive text to make him want you bad.

Match his energy

For him to want you bad, he has to feel that you truly get him. While it’s certainly easier to do so in person by maintaining eye contact or mirroring his gestures, you can still achieve this by understanding and matching his texting style.

Is he an all-day texter, or does he prefer to receive texts in the evening? Also, take note of his favorite words or expressions and subtly include them in your responses.

Mix it up

Don’t just rely on texting; make use of selfies, videos, and social media. If you see something funny, share it with him and make his day. When you’re looking and feeling amazing, send him a picture. You'll be on his mind the whole day.

Ask him questions too

If he really likes you, chances are he’ll have lots of questions to ask you. Show him that the feeling is mutual by asking him questions, too. You’ll build a stronger emotional connection this way. Plus, your conversations will be more engaging.

Encourage him

If you appreciate having him in your life, tell him. When he has something important lined up for the day, send him a text to let him know he has your support. Encouraging him is a great way to strengthen your bond and show him that you care about him.

Make Him Want You Even More

Is your connection feeling a little lackluster lately? The good news is you can get that spark back. Here's exactly how to do it:

Focus on you

It seems counterintuitive, but focusing on yourself can make him want you more. Think back to when you were first getting to know each other. He just couldn't get enough of you, and even the small things fascinated him. This is because you were a mystery, and getting to know you was exciting.

Keep him guessing and recreate the magic of the good old days by focusing on your hobbies, interests, and personal growth.

Switch things up

Sometimes a bit of excitement is all you need to make him want you more. While it's exciting to be pursued, inject a bit of unpredictability into your relationship and romance him too.

Surprise him by planning activities related to his hobbies and interests. You could also switch up your usual date night favorites for new things. For example, cooking or dance classes are a great way to increase your chemistry levels and learn something together.

Be attentive to his needs

A healthy sex life is associated with greater levels of intimacy and relationship satisfaction. Try to be attentive and considerate of his needs. Neglecting him will only push him away.

Check in with him regularly to find out if he’s satisfied with the physical aspects of your relationship. Be willing to work with him to come to an understanding that works for both of you.

Understand his love language

The five love languages have been proven to strengthen relationships and lead to greater levels of happiness.

Understanding his love language will make him feel loved and valued. Take the official online quiz here and allow this powerful tool to transform how you relate to each other.

Prioritize positivity

Find lots of opportunities to joke around and laugh together. Creating a positive environment will strengthen your connection. Be mindful of how you handle conflict and watch how you talk to him.

Rather than criticizing him, use positive reinforcement to encourage him. If you want him to show you more affection, praise him for his efforts; he’ll be motivated to do more.

Don't Force Things

If you've done all you can and he still doesn't seem interested, it might be time to cut your losses and move on.

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